25 Ways to Build Self-Confidence

I remember a conversation I had several years ago with one of our team members. He wanted my assistance with a three-way call and in asking me to do this he referred to me as a “velvet hammer.” Was this a compliment? At first I wasn’t sure! He then told me he admired my ability to be assertive without being pushy. As we visited it became clear he felt I came by this ability naturally; that I had some sort of innate self-confidence.

Oh, if only he could have witnessed my first formal USANA presentation. My knees were shaking so hard I was afraid my guests would notice my pant legs vibrating! My palms were sweaty and I understood exactly what is meant by the term “cotton-mouth.”

We can make the mistake of believing confidence is innate – something we either have or we don’t. Not true. In reality, self-confidence is more like a muscle that becomes stronger if we exercise it. We must require a certain level of performance from that muscle or it will atrophy.

The subject of my podcast this week was “Building Self-Confidence.” I shared stories from my life and examples of role models I’ve used in helping to build my own confidence. I promised to list 25 ways to build self-confidence and you’ll find them below.

I’d love your input. If you can add to the list…please do so by leaving a comment. Thank you for reading and for sharing your wisdom and experience!

1 – Practice eye contact. There’s a fine line between appearing shy and unsure of yourself and coming across so intense that we intimidate the very people we want to engage. A suggestion from communication expert, Arch Lustberg, is to find a spot on the face (preferable in the general area of the nose, mouth or eyebrows), soften our gaze and look there while speaking to someone.

2 – Walk faster. I learned this the first time I watched Edna Northrup cross a street. Here was this 80-something year-old woman with so much energy and enthusiasm in her step. I just felt she had places to go, people to see and was a woman who knew what she wanted. Turns out, my assumption was correct! Pep up your step and see how confident it makes you feel.

3 – Compliment others. The old “If you can’t say something nice…don’t say anything at all,” still holds true. When you look for the good in others and then make the effort to tell them what you’ve found, it brings out the best in you.

4 – Give back. My daughter Chelsea said something to me a few years ago that has stuck with me. Considering she has four young children – two with Cystic Fibrosis, I was suggesting she didn’t need to contribute quite so generously to a CF fundraiser I was participating in. “We never have less by giving,” she said. A valuable lesson from a daughter who is wise beyond her years. The more you contribute, the more you’ll be rewarded. It’s that simple.

5 – Give yourself credit. It’s not egotistical to pat yourself on the back when you’ve accomplished something you set your mind to. It’s healthy to acknowledge your achievements.

6 – Initiate a conversation with someone you don’t know. You never know where this will lead – a new friend? A potential business partner? A wedding?

7 – Listen to your “self talk.” Catch yourself and actually say out loud, “I take that back” each time you tell yourself you’re not enough, or you can’t have, or you’re not worthy.

8 – If you’re in a toxic relationship, reevaluate it. You owe it to yourself to have an honest discussion with this person about how things need to be and what you expect from now on. You deserve love and respect.

9 – Notice what you do well. There is so much you can feel confident about. Become familiar with how it feels to think and say, “Wow, I’m really good at that!”

10 – Resist the urge to get swept up in the mundane drama of life. Close your eyes and see the big picture…your better self.

11 – Comparing yourself to others is counterproductive. Compare yourself to yourself. Are you growing? Are you learning? Are you loving? You are amazing!

12 – Do your feared thing first. The longer you leave that big frog on your plate, the bigger it will grow and the more energy it will zap. There’s a reason “Just Do It” is such a popular slogan!

13 – Connect to your soul’s divine center. Find your own inherent value independent of any relationship you’re in or any accolades you receive. Feels good, doesn’t it? And of course, that confidence will only enhance your relationships and bring you more accolades.

14 – People watch. Think of the people you respect – those who exude confidence. What is it about them? You don’t need to copy them…but you can identify qualities you want to emulate.

15 – Believe in magic. I’ve found that certain rituals come in handy when my confidence needs a boost – right before I walk on stage, for example. The Energy Medicine techniques I’ve learned at Sanoviv, such as scooping energy upward from below my waist to the top of my head while taking deep cleansing breaths or tapping energy points on my body help me immensely. I also carry a little angel wherever I go. This probably goes back to my love of Dumbo and his magic feather. Yes, the magic was inside all along, but it sure helped to hold on to something.

16 – Build on little successes. It’s not necessary to fling yourself head-on into overwhelming challenges. For example, if you want to become a Star Diamond in USANA…it’s okay to declare that intention, but absolutely critical to earn your first check, then earn a weekly check, then earn $1,000.00 a month, and move up from there. With each successive step your confidence will grow.

17 – Track your achievements. I’m understanding this concept better than ever with my new Nike Fuel Band. It’s a wristband I wear that tracks my activity level each day. My confidence grows with each day I hit my goal and I love looking back over the past week or the past month to see my progress. There’s even a cute little figure that pops up on my phone when I earn a new achievement. Hmmm…how could we use these concepts in building our USANA businesses?

18 – It’s okay to have a practice round. In our family, we love to play games and each time we teach a new game to someone, we have a “practice round” — an opportunity for that person to play without it really counting. I think we need to do this in life as well. I think of those first few presentations I gave as practice rounds. I think of the first couple times I spoke at conventions as practice rounds. Even if (when) I goofed up, the world kept spinning. Practice rounds are a way to take some of the pressure off while building your self confidence.

19 – Sit in the front row. Why do people sit in the back? Is it because they don’t want to be called on, don’t want to be noticed? Sitting up front boosts confidence. You’re visible to the people speaking and you will be more engaged in what is going on.

20 – Exercise. Admittedly, I’ve come to this party pretty late in the game…but oh my…the impact it’s had on my self-confidence is immense. Fitness has a direct impact on self confidence. By improving your health and fitness level, you improve everything about your life. Having the discipline to exercise every day makes you feel more in control of your life. You look better, you feel better and you have the energy and momentum necessary to accomplish amazing things — including building a business.

21 – Say something. In group discussions, just speak up. People are generally much less judgmental than we imagine and are often dealing with their own fears around speaking in public. By offering your input you show confidence and set yourself apart as a leader.

22 – Try something new. Dust off that old “to do before I die” list and take on a new challenge. Doing what you’ve been doing over and over again can turn familiarity into apathy. A new direction, a new conquest, a new challenge wakes us up.

23 – Pray. Just try it and see how you feel.

24 – Your weaknesses can become your strengths. It happens all the time and it can happen to you. I’d love to hear your examples.

25 – Becoming self-confident is a journey – an ongoing process of growth and discovery. You don’t win the game and then take off the uniform! There is no end-point, no goal to be reached. You crawl, you stand, you walk, you run…and along the way, as your self-confidence grows, you lift and love.

 

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USANA Podcast — Building Confidence

Collette telling a story from the stage at USANA's International Convention

On Episode 9, Collette joins Ryan to discuss self-confidence. Where does it come from? Can it be learned? Listen for some great tips on improving and building your self-confidence.

Go here to see Collette’s list of 25 Ways to Build Self-Confidence.

We hope that you enjoy this new feature and we would love to hear your thoughts and feedback. If you have any ideas for future episodes of our Larsen Global USANA podcast, we would love to hear them in the comments below. Be sure to take notes and get back to us with your success stories via Twitter (@LarsenGlobal) or Facebook (facebook.com/larsenglobal).

There are a few different ways to listen to our podcasts. We suggest you subscribe to the Larsen Global USANA podcast on iTunes. This will allow you to listen to us from your iPod, iPhone, iTunes, or other device. To subscribe through iTunes, click here, or click the iTunes image below. You can also listen to the podcast by pressing the “play” button below (note: if you are receiving this article as an email subscription, you will need to click here to listen to the podcast with your web browser).

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USANA Podcast — Countdown to Convention

On Episode 8, Collette talks to Ryan about Larsen Global’s Countdown to Convention Contest, how newcomers to convention can get the most out of it, and how they can bring convention home with them.  Also, Collette shares a few ’12 Convention secrets that you won’t hear anywhere else!

We hope that you enjoy this new feature and we would love to hear your thoughts and feedback. If you have any ideas for future episodes of our Larsen Global USANA podcast, we would love to hear them in the comments below. Be sure to take notes and get back to us with your success stories via Twitter (@LarsenGlobal) or Facebook (facebook.com/larsenglobal).

There are a few different ways to listen to our podcasts. We suggest you subscribe to the Larsen Global USANA podcast on iTunes. This will allow you to listen to us from your iPod, iPhone, iTunes, or other device. To subscribe through iTunes, click here, or click the iTunes image below. You can also listen to the podcast by pressing the “play” button below (note: if you are receiving this article as an email subscription, you will need to click here to listen to the podcast with your web browser).

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Countdown to USANA’s 2012 Convention Contest Winner

We want to thank everyone who entered our Countdown to USANA’s 2012 Convention Contest. We received 96 entries and the comments were so kind. We picked a random winner from everyone who left comments, and the lucky winner was number 37, Alicia Trice. Alicia, we are excited to meet with you during convention for a business strategy session with Collette and Zachary, and with Dax for an online marketing consultation.

For everyone else who entered, thank you. You will have two more chances to win. By leaving a comment on the original post, you are already entered in the next drawing, but keep checking our Facebook page for more chances to win.

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Countdown to USANA Convention Contest

Convention is always one of the highlights of our year, and USANA’s 2012 International Convention – our 20th Anniversary Celebration – promises to exceed all expectations. In addition to learning from the stellar lineup of speakers and enjoying the world-class entertainment, we are excited to connect with our friends and business partners from around the world.

This year we’re starting the celebration a little early by running a “Countdown to Convention” contest. Three randomly chosen winners – one each in June, July and August – will be entitled to a private one hour training session during convention with Collette, Zak and Dax.

To be eligible to enter the contest, you need to do just two simple things:

1. Like us on Facebook.

2. Leave a comment on this blog.

That was easy.

Anyone can enter. If you win our contest but won’t be at USANA’s International Convention, we will be happy to offer the consultation and strategy session over the phone, or internationally via Skype.

Remember to leave a comment below to enter. We will announce a winner the first week of June, the first week of July and the first week of August. We look forward to seeing you soon!

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USANA Podcast — Storytelling

Collette telling a story from the stage at USANA's International Convention

Collette telling a story from the stage at USANA's International Convention

In this episode of Larsen Global’s USANA Podcast, Collette joins Ryan to discuss what makes a great storyteller and how telling stories can help your USANA business grow.

We hope that you enjoy this new feature and we would love to hear your thoughts and feedback. If you have any ideas for future episodes of our Larsen Global USANA podcast, we would love to hear them in the comments below. Be sure to take notes and get back to us with your success stories via Twitter (@LarsenGlobal) or Facebook (facebook.com/larsenglobal).

There are a few different ways to listen to our podcasts. We suggest you subscribe to the Larsen Global USANA podcast on iTunes. This will allow you to listen to us from your iPod, iPhone, iTunes, or other device. To subscribe through iTunes, click here, or click the iTunes image below. You can also listen to the podcast by pressing the “play” button below (note: if you are receiving this article as an email subscription, you will need to click here to listen to the podcast with your web browser).

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An Update on Sharlie and Remembering Lexi

Sharlie and Lexi in Middle School

I have been sitting in a beautiful park here in Los Altos for the past hour, the empty screen of my laptop in front of me – pondering. Shoup Park is a spectacular oasis; the sun is warming my back, children are laughing as they run alongside the stream and everything is in Springtime bloom. It feels as if I’m seeing LIFE through new eyes. Hope springs eternal. It’s a cliché…but one that makes sense to me.

March 5th, 1995 – the date by which everything is measured in our family; everything of note happened either before or after. And each year on this date…tender feelings and tears. Seventeen years ago today I held my beautiful 14-year-old daughter, Lexi, in my arms as she took her last struggled breath and departed this existence. I’ve missed her every single day since and even though I’ve been blessed with the gift of her “presence” on several special occasions; I still desperately miss being able to see, hear and touch her.

This March 5th feels different. Tears? Certainly. Joyful, Grateful, Overwhelming tears. Sharlie gets stronger each day. Such an amazing insight she shared yesterday. On her daily walks around the hospital corridors, she has been avoiding a ramp that she felt would be too much of a challenge. For almost all her life ramps, stairs, inclines of any sort have given Sharlie pause. She has structured her life in a way that helps her avoid these obstacles; knowing she needs to walk on mostly level ground in order to maintain her oxygen saturation.

Yesterday, flanked by her husband Ryan and their son, Harrison, she walked down that ramp and then a few minutes later walked back up, amazed at the fact she wasn’t breathless at the top! Yes, she was a bit tired after her walk but after all, it’s been just over two weeks since her heart and lungs were replaced. Perfectly respectable to feel a bit worn out.

Walking on Sunshine

Another milestone yesterday…they ventured out, a brief respite – and Sharlie was able to feel the fresh air on her face. They only stayed outside a few precious moments, just long enough to deliver Harrison to me, but oh my…watching the three of them walking hand-in-hand took MY breath away. Sharlie was wearing the mask that will be her constant companion for the next few months, but her beautiful eyes were smiling.

Today – this particular March 5th of 2012 – is a day of celebration. Lexi, I celebrate your memory. Sharlie, I celebrate your courage. Sisters connected. Attached at the hip for fourteen short years. Now…attached at the heart. Being your mother has forever changed me. Thank you.

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An Update on Sharlie

As many of you know, Sharlie underwent a successful double lung and heart transplant on February 16th. So many of you have offered your thoughts and prayers through this process and I want you to know how much that means to Sharlie and Ryan, to me, and to the rest of our family. I really do feel like USANA is family, and the support that we have felt from all of you has been so touching that words can’t begin to express our gratitude.

Sharlie is recovering. She is getting stronger and improving every day, and she is looking forward to beginning the next stage of her healing and strengthening process at Sanoviv. The past two weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions, and I wanted to share some of my thoughts during this time with all of you. The following are excerpts from updates that I sent to my family over this process.

2/18

It is early Saturday morning, February 18th. I just realized as I typed that sentence that 39 years ago today I was in labor. My oldest son, Dax was born in the early hours of the morning on February 19th and it took me over 24 hours to bring him into the world. How is it possible that was 39 years ago?

Truly, I feel a bit like I’ve been in labor over the past couple of days…at least from what I remember, the pain the anguish, the doubt, fears and then the faith and hope and the ultimate unspeakable JOY! Yes, from what I remember all those years ago, the past couple of days has been quite a bit like labor. Sharlie is re-born! She lives; she breathes; she smiles; she cries; she squeezes our hands and she whispers over and over again with tears rolling down her cheeks, “I’m so grateful!”

I can’t begin to describe or express all we’ve witnessed over the past couple of days. There have been sacred miracles too profound to speak about along with laughter that doubled us over. The range of emotions has been staggering.

I know many of you have been following on Facebook so you’ve seen pictures and read updates. Thousands of friends from around the world are following Sharlie’s story. There is something about this exceptional woman…she inspires everyone, especially me.

So much I want to say. How I wish I could express the feelings of my heart to the donor’s family. Someday, I hope they’ll meet precious Shar. That they’ll know that through their grief, so much light and life came into the world.

I’m off to the hospital; but simply wanted to thank you all again and express my love to you. Please forgive my scattered thoughts. Someday, I’ll get it all out. For now…my daughter awaits; alive; and I’m so very, very grateful.

2/25

I am sitting by her bedside, clearly understanding why this amazing machine is called a “laptop.” Technology. Blessed technology. As I watch all the monitors flashing the good news – blood pressure normal, heart rate normal, oxygen saturation – perfect, automated I.V.’s dripping their protection against rejection into her veins; I am struck once again by the sheer immensity of it all. The advancements in science and technology that are being utilized to monitor each precious moment of life.

As a teenager in the mid-60’s, I remember my father showing me a newspaper headline trumpeting the first human heart transplant. Surely this was science fiction! Now, some 45 years later I watch Sharlie’s chest as it effortlessly rises and falls, her new heart beating a perfect rhythm, sustaining her life. What would I have thought, I wonder, if I’d known my own daughter would one day be a heart/lung recipient? A miracle.

A couple days after the transplant I was in the ICU when a member of the surgical team stopped by. He explained he was the surgeon who had “harvested” the organs from the donor. He wasn’t allowed to give me much information but he did tell us that Sharlie’s new heart was bigger than her old. Not possible. Well, maybe possible from a physical perspective…but not possible from any other standpoint. Sharlie already had the biggest of hearts…but as this good doctor explained – “if she had a 250 horsepower engine before, she’ll now be operating with a 350 horsepower engine.” He assured us this would be a very good thing as she begins to exercise, to get fit. A super-charged engine! How awesome is that?

It’s the little things…Sharlie keeps telling me this. The first time she was able to hold her hands under warm, running water she asked if she could just stand there a minute, feeling the water running through her fingers. Her first, shaky steps – several of us supporting her as tears flowed and she gave us a trimphal “thumbs-up.” Last night my sweet sister Sydney (a former nurse and second mother to Shar) helped me give Sharlie her first bath since coming into the hospital. The warm cleansing cloths the nurses provide have been okay…but to have a basin of very warm water, all her favorite Sense products, and to luxuriate in the simple act of us washing and rinsing her hair was almost more pleasure than she could bear. Shar proclaimed it was the best she’d ever felt. Uh…I don’t think so; but Sydney and I certainly felt validated and indispensable! Sharlie has a way of making everyone feel special.

She’s waking. More later as she continues along this remarkable journey to recovery. Thank you for your concern and love. We appreciate each of you so very much.

To keep up with Sharlie’s progress, please visit her Facebook page and her blog.

Thanks to Dave Wentz for this special message to Sharlie…


And to Dr. Oz as well…

Thank you for your continued prayers, your support, and your friendship.

Love,

Collette

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USANA Podcast — The Rut

In this episode of Larsen Global’s USANA Podcast, Collette joins Ryan to talk about getting out of your business rut.

We hope that you enjoy this new feature and we would love to hear your thoughts and feedback. If you have any ideas for future episodes of our Larsen Global USANA podcast, we would love to hear them in the comments below. Be sure to take notes and get back to us with your success stories via Twitter (@LarsenGlobal) or Facebook (facebook.com/larsenglobal).

There are a few different ways to listen to our podcasts. We suggest you subscribe to the Larsen Global USANA podcast on iTunes. This will allow you to listen to us from your iPod, iPhone, iTunes, or other device. To subscribe through iTunes, click here, or click the iTunes image below. You can also listen to the podcast by pressing the “play” button below (note: if you are receiving this article as an email subscription, you will need to click here to listen to the podcast with your web browser).

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Following is the sample letter that Collette refers to in the podcast. It is written for those who were once involved with USANA, and who now, for one reason or another, are no longer active. Please feel free to change this sample letter to meet your needs.

Dear _______,

Second chances are hard to come by. I am writing to you and 24 other specific individuals with one clear intention. My partners and I met today to clarify our direction for the coming year. We are determined to find four individuals who want to team upwith us; individuals we believe have the potential to rise as leaders in USANA.

We know you were once involved with USANA; that you had a vision of where USANA could take you and that at one point you earned USANA income. We don’t know why you’re no longer active, but we believe it might be because you were left without leadership or direction. If that spark still burns, and if you’d like to partner with Larsen Global on a leg we will maximize this year, we want to hear from you.

If you are not interested in USANA or in working with us, do nothing. We will not continue to contact you. If you find this message intriguing we would like to personally visit with you about the details and possibilities. We will follow up with those that respond by May 1st on a first-come, first-serve basis. If you would like to discuss this further, please contact us by email at _____________ or directly by phone at _____________.

Warmly,

Collette Larsen

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